God needs men who are manifesting what He had designed them to be. That means being decisive, strong, bold, courageous, reflecting the image of God, and able to make solid decisions and live by them. They are to be able to move mountains in society as well as their families, while serving God wholeheartedly, and being completely focused on God’s kingdom. In the Bible mountains were always symbolic of issues, trouble, problems or, on the other hand, a spiritual force. Jesus said that we will have tribulation, but to be of good cheer because He has overcome the world. That means that He has already overcome all of the mountains of trouble that the enemy could bring into our lives, and there are various scriptures in the New Testament encouraging us to believe that we are victorious overcomers in Christ. Each man has been graced by God to deal with his particular issues. Men need to be biblically optimistic and actively walk out and keep speaking the Word of God. We have been created in the image of God, which means that we are (or should be) righteous and holy, creative, beings. We see in many ways how mankind is operating with the creative part of their beings, but the righteousness and holiness of God is absent. This is what God is at present restoring in his Sons. We are in a symbiotic relationship with the Holy Spirit, where there is a divine-human co-operation in the practicalities of walking out the Word, dealing with double-mindedness, indecisiveness, emotional ineptness, procrastination, disobedience, lack of confidence, abdication, and unwillingness to make or take unpopular decisions or actions in every area of life. For example, men who do not deal with these issues and fail to step up to their responsibilities, force their wives into taking the leading role in the household. A woman has not been designed for this, resulting in her losing respect for her husband, and the man becoming resentful, depressed and sullen. A correct marriage relationship is where the husband’s role is one of consultative leadership, his wife being the sensitive one, her husband’s helpmeet regarding intuitive matters during the process of decision making. The reasons for a person becoming passive and/or abdicating responsibility, are fear of failure, being a perfectionist or a people-pleaser, having lost sight of the bigger picture, a lack of confidence and maturity, and maybe a lack of information. It is good to acknowledge that you are weak and have someone who can be a sounding board and help you to get through your issues. Methods to help in decision making are – make your own decisions and own it, develop your confidence, let go of previous bad decisions, talk it out with a sounding board, look at, and narrow down all the options, outline the pros and cons, flip a coin for small decisions, and avoid questioning your decision but stand by them.
